Around two years back, a neighbour of mine came home. I was having idly that time, so I brought her a plate too. She had and said they were very yummy. I also packed her few idlis. She called me in the evening saying her husband loved those idlis. She wanted me to teach her some day. I was shocked because she isn’t very fond of cooking and she also thinks, instead of working so hard in making something, one can spend some money and eat out. There is another reason too, she thinks that it might not turn out good. Anyways, I agreed.

One day she called me and told that she wanted to make idli for dinner. So I asked her to soak dal and grind after few hours. She told me she would soak dal but asked me to come and make the batter. I agreed but I was hesitant because, I was eight months pregnant and MIL never allowed me to step out around that time. But, I convinced her. I made the batter and told her that I would teach her next day and by that time the batter would ferment too.

So next day, I made dinner at my place and left for her place. I told my MIL that I would have dinner at her place as she wouldn’t let me go Β without eating. When I reached her home, I saw she was watching TV and and nothing was ready. Nothing as in NOTHING. She didn’t soak the dal and she didn’t grate the coconut. I was shocked. I had to go home early otherwise my MIL would scold me. I asked her to soak the dal and grate coconut. I even asked her to keep an eye while I was making first batch of idlis. After she was done with grating coconut, I told her the way to make chutney. She asked me to make it. She was scared that she might goof up. Now don’t ask me how can anyone goof up while making chutney! I have no idea.

After chutney, I made sambar too as I knew she would say the same thing if I asked her to make on her own. After making chutney, sambar and one batch of idli, I told her that I would leave and she could make the remaining ones herself. Guess what she said! She asked me to steam the remaining idlis because she was scared that she might not get it right and blah and more blah! I agreed. After making 48 idlis (for four people *rolling eyes*), I finally asked her leave. She thanked me and said okay. That is it! Nope, she didn’t offer me to have dinner at her home. She only offered me water. No, maybe I asked for water. Anyways, I don’t remember.

So why this idli saga after two years.

Because, yesterday another neighbour of mine came and asked me to teach her idli making. I told her I would come in ten minutes after completing my work. I went there and I found that she got ready-made batter and she just wanted to tell her, how to steam idlis. I taught her and with left over batter, I told she could make dosas. She didn’t knew, so I made dosas too. I asked if she knew how to make sambar and chutney. She said that she made sambar and brought ready-made chutney.

I said okay and was leaving. She asked me to have some. I refused. She insisted. I refused again. She asked me again and the kids joined her. I refused again. She asked me for tea and coffee. I left saying, some other time.

Now, why am I mentioning this! Because, I ‘steamed’ only 5 idlis and made 2 dosas. And she wanted me to share where as for another neighbour, I ‘made’ 48 idlis and she didn’t even ask me once!

This thing touched me and I had to mention it here.

I also wanted to tell everyone (whoever is reading, obviously!) that idli can be a very good judge of character!

P.S. No, I am not the official ‘idli maker’ of my neighbours.


23 thoughts on “IDLI

  1. You are the official idli doubt 😊
    How rude of that first neighbor. Shame on her, that too when you were pregnant.
    Anyway, good to know that sane ppl like the new neighbor still exist. And did you not worry when you were asked second time? I would have stayed away from neighbors after the first experience.😊


  2. Wow…totally used you yaar. Shocked. The second incident is obviously more normal. Wondering why steaming idlis from readymade batter is hard though and needed a tutorial. You are super sweet for obliging and helping yaar.


    • Yupp…..used is what I felt! Aree……for someone who doesn’t work in kitchen, even boiling water is a task. She knew only basic things and did not want to go wrong while doing anything new, that is why.
      Aww….thank you Pop πŸ™‚


  3. I was following your blog but never got the updates. All this while I was thinking you were not updating your blog. Sigh. Dont know why WP goofs up like this.

    Errr… you made 48 idlis for 4 people (what?! are they Ghatotkachas or what?!) and she didnt even offer you anything?! I have not seen such a selfish soul. And you are too good Deea.

    Your other neighbour’s act touched me too. Lol at your mention of official idli maker πŸ˜€


    • Aree…..even wordpress does this with me for some blogs!
      You know, while making the batter I thought, maybe she is making this much so that she could store it. Later I realised that it was not only her dinner but her breakfast and lunch too, for the next day!
      Thank you GB!
      Hehe…..I just wanted to clear before others started giving me names πŸ˜€


      • Hi, I also don’t write much and mostly read but I keep on coming back to your blog to check for updates., I really admire whatever glimpse of personality I got from your blog. And well, I am a married gal and am not spamming. and fooling around. Please try to post some more whenever possible. Please take care

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  4. How did i miss such a post on my reader? I was just surfing through something on my own blog when i saw your old comments and thought to come see you as i haven’t heard from you since long. And i find this. πŸ™‚ aah, yes. From looks like Idli is for sure a good judge of character. I’m just wondering what you would call me had you known that i used to throw away idlis everywhere(bed sides, hidden corners, cup boards) from my plate just to avoid eating them. Mum had to find them based on the foul scent every single time. Don’t even ask how i escaped from her idli wrath. But the advantage is mum now never makes idli without the combination of sambhar or chutney. πŸ™‚
    Apart from my long story, i still don’t know why people think that making Idlis and Dosas as a herculean task. And that first neighbour of yours, no explanations needed. She’s just rude and was just taking advantage of your kindness. And here’s my sweet smile and hi to your latest good neighbour πŸ™‚
    Sorry for the loooong comment and Take care deea.


    • I am very busy these days. It’s after many days that I logged in and I see your comments and likes. Did I tell you I love you!
      As kid, even I never liked idli. But now I am okay with anything!
      Even I felt the same when they asked me to make idli. But they never made idlis before. And yes, you are right about the first neighbour.


  5. First things first, I have to say I admire your patience and maturity for all through the post I could sense you managed to stay cool and calm despite being hurt by the first neighbor.

    I have come across quite a few of such selfish, inconsiderate souls and I think I should write a post on the same. I am glad that life sent a sweet, considerate neighbor your way after someone outright mean.

    I agree, Idlis definitely are a great way to test human character πŸ™‚


    • I don’t know if it was maturity or expectation that she would definitely ask me to eat. But whatsoever it was, I was hurt.
      Ofcourse, you should do a post. I don’t know but I feel better about this incident after writing it here. I am sure you will feel better too πŸ™‚

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